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LIE TO ME

This definitely would not be my original work. So I plead with you for tolerance and leniency for outshining myself with someone else’s abstraction of the subject. I thought as I have enjoyed reading the branch of this particular knowledge I must reproduce relevant and concise excerpts which should be of value.

The period after my retirement from the Army in 2008 and the year following it threw me into the world of TV Serials. The list is numberless. Few though, I have remembered as the theme was absorbing and compelling so say the least. I am talking about a Crime TV series in 2009 which ran for almost two years.  I also liked the series because of Tim Roth’s acting and his investigative skills as he portrayed a body language scientist especially in the field of microexpressions. An interesting quote from one of the episodes

Cal Lightman: You’re a terrible liar.

Dr. Gillian Foster: Normal people think that’s a good thing.

Cal Lightman: Are you saying I’m not normal?

If you have time you may like to watch this (cut and paste link) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P_6vDLq64gE – How to spot a liar | Pamela Meyer

The excerpts you will read are from an Article published WHY WE LIE by Yudhijit Bhattacharjee in National Geographic June 2017 issue. As you will observe I have changed the Topic from original WHY WE LIE to LIE to ME attributing it to Tim Roth’s acting skills in the TV Series by the same name.

The history of Humankind is strewn with crafty and seasoned liars. Many are criminals who spin lies and weave deception to gain unjust rewards. Some are politicians who lie to come to power or cling to it. Sometimes people lie to inflate their image. People lie to cover up bad behavior. Lying, as it turns out, is something that most of us are very adept at. We lie with ease, in ways big and small, to strangers, co-workers, friends and loved ones. Our capacity for dishonesty is as fundamental to us as our need to trust others, which ironically makes us terrible at detecting lies. Being deceitful is woven into our very fabric, so much so that it would be truthful to say that to human is to lie.  The researchers have found out that the subjects lied on average one or two times a day. Most of these untruths were innocuous, intended to hide one’s inadequacies or to protect the feelings of others. Some lies were excuses – one subject blamed the failure to take out the garbage on not knowing where it needed to go. That human being should universally possess a talent for deceiving one another shouldn’t surprise us. The researchers have found out that liars had at least 20% more neural fibers by volume in their prefrontal cortices, suggesting that habitual liars have greater connectivity within their brains. It’s possible this predisposes them to lie because they can think up lies more readily than others, or it might be the researchers have shown that we are especially prone to accepting lies that affirm our world view. When leaders lie, debunking them does not demolish their power, because people assess the evidence presented to them through a framework of preexisting beliefs and prejudices. George Lakoff of Berkely writes, ‘if a fact fact comes in that doesn’t fit into your frame, you’ll either not notice it, or ignore it, or be puzzled by it – or attack it if it’s threatening.

“I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you.”
― Friedrich Nietzsche